At
a conference on social science and work-life journalism I attended in May 2004, writers and researchers alike were bemoaning
the new trend in national press coverage of work-life issues—
which, everyone agreed, hit a low point in October 2003, when Lisa Belkin’s “Opt Out Revolution”
story made the cover of the New York Times magazine. (“Why
don’t women run the world?,” Belkin pondered. “Perhaps
it’s because they don’t want to.”) Why, we grumbled,
were reputedly liberal media outlets wasting ink on news and commentary
about the modest number of affluent professional women who swap
their careers for stay-at-home motherhood, when more in-depth
analysis of the myriad social and economic factors that disadvantage
average working families is desperately needed?
The problem, several
well-respected journalists suggested, has to do with what’s
considered newsworthy. Old news doesn't sell, and -- thanks to a powerful resurgence of hide-bound attitudes about appropriate
social roles for men and women -- the real news
about work and family in the U.S. (which, just for the record, includes
a profusion of cultural and structural barriers to women’s advancement in the
workplace, the continuing economic inequality of men and
women, the intersection of race, class and gender discrimination in just about any social problem you can name, and ongoing resistance to enacting adequate family policy in the U.S.) looks a lot like old news.
The deepest disenchantment
with the stagnation of women’s progress wells up from the
hearts of those of us who expected to be much farther along by now.
Between 1960 and 1980, women made unprecedented gains in equality
of rights and liberties as part of the larger human rights movement
that flourished in that era. Supporters of the women’s
movement believed that when enough feminist parents raised their
sons and daughters to move fearlessly into the egalitarian future,
our progress would simply roll over from generation to generation
until all that irksome ideology about men’s
and women’s relative capacities for love and work was ground
to dust. In this new, improved, woman-friendly world, families would
thrive because both mothers and fathers would devote equal time
and effort to paid work and caregiving, and everyone would be happier,
healthier and more financially secure. The patriarchy might not
be ripped out by its roots, but at least men would be doing their
full share of child care and housework, and women could enjoy the
independence and self-respect that come from having a paycheck of
one’s own.
Needless to say, things
didn’t exactly work out that way. Today, educated, middle-class
couples— who, by some popular accounts, are reduced to constant
squabbling over who works harder and how often they have sex— are as likely to feel weighed down by the legacy of feminism
as they are to feel emancipated by it. Even when they have supportive
partners, many mothers still struggle with combining work and family—
on both an emotional and practical level— and wonder if maybe
the good old-fashioned arrangement of breadwinner dad/homemaker
mom might not have certain advantages for all concerned. Far too
often, the conviction that “women can do anything” works
against the interests of low-income women who lack access to the
education, resources and employment opportunities that lifted the
oppression of their well-to-do sisters. Little wonder the mainstream
media is having a love affair with the latest crop of smart, politically-savvy
women who proclaim that feminism is no longer necessary, inexcusably
elitist, hopelessly arcane, dangerously misguided, or just plain
dead.
Over the last decade
or so, a different group of writers and researchers— from both
pro- and anti-feminist camps— have attempted to tease out why,
as we settle into the twenty-first century, the high-speed train
to liberty, equality and justice for women is stalled on the tracks
at the half-way point. Conflicting theories abound, but most can
be distilled down to a fairly simple formula: Is it nature or culture
that continues to divide the fortunes of men and women— or
some of each, and if so, how much and what should we do about it?
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